I have been told my whole life that I have a big mouth. Yep, that is true. I try to control it, but can’t help it. Anytime anyone is talking, there is a parallel script going through my head, more like a comedy routine. When I find a break, I toss in a tidbit. They are not usually golden, but I find them funny. However, the people you should be aware of are the silent ones. I have a friend, Jaime, that doesn’t talk much, but when he does, it is golden. I believe this is because he thinks of these lines months or even years in advance. Waiting for the appropriate moment, they toss out the line. This takes way too much patience. I don’t have patience to wait months for a joke. Lately I have been tossing out inappropriate one liners at Bible Study.
There. Have you formed an opinion of me yet? Since I said “Bible Study”? The other day again I could not stop my talking via my hands on Facebook. A former coworker said she was disappointed with her church for having a stand against homosexuality and marriage. In her opinion, the church was on the wrong side of history. Well, the debate began. I am no Bible scholar, but I know what I believe. My comment was as follows:
“I believe it is a sin like any other sin. This is what the Bible says. I would expect any Bible based church to believe this. We are all sinners. Overeating, hating, etc are all sins. Who are we to judge? Hate the sin, love the sinners.”
It appears that the words I believe were completely ignored. How can someone be condemned for believing something? I am not affecting anyone by my decision. I am allowing you to believe what you want. I am not bashing anyone. Yet, the comments following mine let out a tirade of Christianity bashing. It boggles my mind that this is done by supposed open minded people. Being I am a Christian Republican, I am suppose to be the close minded one. I do not believe in judging you for your beliefs. To each his own. However, what I consider a sin is what I try to avoid in my life. I struggle with gluttony and sloth. Those are my sins to bear. We are all sinners. I am not telling anyone they are not getting to Heaven by being gay. Jesus died for ALL our sins. If you believe in Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour, then you will go to Heaven too. This is pretty clear.
In this post, one man honestly asked what the Bible said about homosexuality. I posted a URL that listed several Bible verses related to homosexuality. Again, I was picked apart by giving a straight forward answer to this man’s question. I then further clarified my point:
“The point is. Believe what you want, but allow everyone to believe what they want while loving as Jesus said.”
Again attacked. Here was one of the comments:
“That kind of was not your point. By saying “I believe it is a sin like any other sin.” you are in fact placing a very negative judgement on an entire group of people. It’s my honest and respectful opinion that you are doing so without basis.
While I respect your belief, and completely support your freedom to believe anything you want. I also strongly support your freedom to say anything you want. What I won’t support is you doing so without being called out on it. This in no way stops you from believing what you want. It may make it uncomfortable, but I think that’s ok.
Calling “it” a sin is a negative judgement, plain and simple. It is in fact a pre-judgment, since you are judging a large group of people without knowing anything about the specific people. Prejudice is an ugly thing. Being prejudice should be uncomfortable IMHO.”
Little does this person know me. I know a few gay people. I do not single them out or discuss their “gayness”. They are just friends and family. I find it funny that I am not allowed to make anyone uncomfortable for their belief, yet it’s ok to make me uncomfortable for what I believe. This hypocrisy reminds me of the time I went to a 3 day management diversity workshop. People in the class were spewing the politically correct responses to racism. I said that over the years I had heard comments from older adults negatively stereotyping various ethnic groups. So, when I come across someone different from me, a tape of the previously heard stereotypes plays in my head. A woman yelled that this made me a racist. This is wrong. I told her if I listened to those words, then yes, I would be a racist. However, I choose to override those tapes, which makes me a realist. Anyone who denies the ingrained tapes of previous generations is either in denial or had many, many years of therapy. Or possibly a concussion.
I am a proud Christian. Because Christians tend to be mild and meek, not speaking out when they are being bashed, we have become the newest, most popular scapegoat. Those who preach tolerance are not tolerant of Christians. Oops! I did not mean to say that about a whole group, however this Facebook thread has lead me to believe this to be true. The word Christianity makes them cringe. Yes, on both sides there are radicals. I abhor anyone who bashes any group of people. It seems that both sides “cherry pick” verses to suit their stand. Quoting changes in history or that society has changed is a big reason given on why we should not believe in sin. God has not changed. Many of the things in the Old Testament fell away when Jesus became the sacrificial lamb, but God has not changed. I find 1 John verse 2 sums it up. One verse says:
15 Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father[d] is not in them.16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.
It seems that society has fallen in love with the world. It is clear when we put athletes and stars as our idols. We need to each seek what the will of God is through prayer and the teachings in the Bible. The whole Bible. I also rely on religious mentors to help me clarify where I have indecision on the true meaning of verses. The more educated you become on God’s word, through Bible stories and a variety of books, the more God’s will is known.
Churches each have different doctrines. Churches include man’s rules, so If you are in a church that does not match your beliefs, leave. Find a church that has your same mindset. This does not require you to bash Christians or a specific religion or even go to a church. There is plenty of room in this world for each of us to have our own honest opinions. If I believe eating too much is a sin; I am not hating fat people. This is just something I feel I need to try to get under control in order to lead a Godly life. This does not keep me from sharing this belief by writing a diet book to help others. Trust me. If I wrote a diet book, you would not want to read it. It would include recipes for the major food groups discussed in the movie Elf. Every person has the right to free speech to attest to their beliefs, but do so without hate.
Luke 10:25-28 says what needs to be said on how the comments in Facebook and life should go:
The Parable of the Good Samaritan
25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”
28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”
I will always respect your opinion and your right to have that opinion. Here is my advice for future interactions with others:
Do not label anyone who’s opinion differs from yours.
We are all sinners.
Do not judge.
For some, if my beliefs include a Bible, I am hated. I am a Christian. I will love you no matter how much you hate me.
Following Jesus’ words, if we love each other, nothing further needs to be said.